When speaking to a group about Trauma I often ask them, what is it? Can you give me an example? They will often shout out
witnessing an accident
These are certainly potentially traumatic situations but it doesn't have to be something that is traumatic to any one else. We are always living in the feeling our thinking and so what is traumatic to one person might not be to someone else.
When I was in my 20s I was mugged 3 times. It was the early 1980s and PTSD was only just being recognized as a diagnosis
Why does no one understand how I feel?
One of my biggest challenges after my injuries had healed was that I couldn't explain to anyone why I was so scared. My mind kept repeating and repeating the story of what happened to me. I wasn't eating or sleeping properly and became very scared to leave the house.
It wasn't until I met some very understanding women who guided me to see that it was time to let go of my story.
I had become so Identified with the story of what happened to me that I was constantly living in the feeling of what happened not in what was happening now.
They showed me I was safe and that I had all the resilience and courage I needed to get well
Since then I have learned that I am not what happened to me, that I am not my thoughts about it and that I am strong.
The latest insight I have had about trauma is that what happened is part of my story, part of my history but so is growing up in England and working in Hollywood. It doesn't define me and I am free to go anywhere and be who I want now that I understand how experience is created.
From moment to moment I am safe, my mind is a safe neighborhood!